09/03/12 - 0 Comments
Singles Guide To: Meeting New People
Ever notice how some people can just dominate a room? I mean,we’re not just talking about the beautiful person that walks in and gets a second of everyone’s time with a (sometimes not so) discreet glance, but the person who walks in and literally works the crowd.
They’re at the center of the group at the bar or making everyone laugh over dinner. These people, you think to yourself, have some kind of natural gift of social graces. As you sigh your “I wish it was easier for me to meet new people” sigh, we beg you to lift your chin up, because we truly believe anyone and everyone can benefit from practicing the skills that turn you into a social ninja. We have faith in you! Here are a few quick tips for how to sharpen your socializing talents and stop feeling so awkward anytime a group of cute guys approach your corner of the bar on Taco Tuesday.
Be more of a child. Maybe you didn’t have the best childhood in the world—we all remember being the last kid picked for dodge ball in the gym—but humor us for a moment. Ever noticed how easy it is for children to just say what’s on their mind? Open yourself up to showing a bit of that child-like candor that can be so refreshing as an adult. Don’t think about what a conversation might lead to, just dive in. Compliment a girl on her shoes and let her know if you’ve genuinely been searching for that exact pair or tell the guy on the train you just finished reading the same book and loved it.
Say it with confidence. Whatever it is you decide to say, say it with an air of authority. It’s hard to take someone seriously (or even connect with someone) when they’re too shy to speak up. You’ve surely been in the position where a guy is shyly attempting a conversation with you in a whisper so mild you have to strain to hear him. We are willing to bet it ended with an eye roll and the cold shoulder. So, in order to avoid the same exchange between you and someone else, we suggest you say it loud and say it proud, sister!
Laugh at yourself. It’s hard not to find someone approachable and fun when they are able to laugh at themselves in public. So, next time you spill your martini or trip on your way into your best friend’s wedding venue—gasp!—just laugh it off and make a joke about your clumsiness to the first person you make eye contact with. No better bonding moment with new friends (or, ahem, love interests) than with a funny slip-up.
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