10/10/12 - 0 Comments
Single’s Guide To: Partying
Here’s the thing. When you’re single, in your mid-to-late twenties (and looking for a potential partner), there are certain things you need to keep in mind when it comes to how you party. We are no longer in college, but yet, you find twenty-somethings traipsing around the city carrying themselves with little more pride and finesse than a girl at a college frat party. And, let’s face it, we’ve all seen her…you don’t want to be that girl. So, we’d like to offer a checklist, if you will, of how to attract the right crowd, have a good time and keep your dignity intact while partying….even while you drop it, drop it low, girl.
Stop buying the basic party dresses. Lycra, stretchy, drapey, short, strapless and hideously stamped with zebra or leopard print. Paired with matching bangles and pointy toe heels, it screams easy and young. It’s time to step it up in the wardrobe department, ladies. We aren’t endorsing over-spending at Barneys here, we’re just saying let’s lay off the smocked and skintight dresses and ease our way into better fabrics with unique and stylish details (deep V front and back, anyone?).
Let go of inhibitions…but keep them close at hand. Who doesn’t appreciate a woman who can let her hair down, yet remain in control of her actions (and words!) while out drinking? We’ve all seen the girl who outdoes herself with the dry martinis and ends up being dragged out of the bar and shoved into a taxi. Remember to keep it classy by pacing yourself!
Give the right signals. Let’s just say no rings on your left ring finger and one arm rested on the bar with your body facing out (towards the crowd) are two rules of thumb you need to follow if you’re looking to meet new people. Don’t close yourself off entirely by focusing too hard on the conversation at hand with your wing-woman (unless of course, it’s GNO—girl’s night out, that is). Also remember, if you accept a drink from a man, be courteous enough to engage in a bit of small talk. If you’re not interested in furthering the conversation after that, gently move away from it. Men take their cues from our signals—whether we mean them to be interpreted the way they are, or not.
Get on the dance floor. Not on the tables. You’re trying to bait attractive young men with your fun-spirited nature, not your gyrating skills and stripper-pole-worthy moves. Enough said!
Offer your number to only a select few. Remember, as much as you’re holding yourself to higher standards (even when out partying), you should hold men to an equally high standard. Men like selectivity—believe it or not—and if you lead them to believe it’s an accomplishment to get your number alone…well, you’ll be off to a good start.
Go home alone. There’s something powerful about having a great connection with a guy (or two, or three…) while you’re out and still being able to walk away, hail your own cab and give him a call-me-later-wink as you step in. Okay, maybe it’ll be less cinematic than that, but the point is this: going home alone maintains your dignity and potential with the guy you just met—who you genuinely like—high.
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